We all go through these types of questions at some point in our lives. We all wonder why does pain exist. If life is so beautiful then why have something so difficult to face in our lives? Isn't the whole point about having a beautiful life mean that we should be happy and pain-free? Maybe that's true. But think of phrasing the question this way. If we never experienced pain in the first place, then how do we know that what we are experiencing is truly beautiful? What do we have to compare beauty with if pain never existed? If we've never experienced pain, we have absolutely nothing to compare beauty with. And so therefore we go on with our lives not appreciating the beautiful life we have.
There is great beauty in pain. The beauty lies in the lessons that we learn as human beings from pain that no other teacher could possibly teach us. No school, no university, no college, not even our own parents could teach us some of the lessons we learn from our painful experiences. These lessons that pain teaches us are the very lessons that provide growth and wisdom for each and everyone of us. Some of us may choose to take the lessons and discard them, leading a life of hatred to regret and then to a slow decay of our soul through self-pity. Or some of us may take the opportunity to learn from those painful experiences, by leading a life of forgiveness, love and then to an everlasting peace of our soul through acceptance. Pain is the harshest of all teachers, yet the most wise. Learning from pain provides us with great wisdom and an ability to overcome our primal self's inability to see beyond the present.
A lot of us will blame God about many of our problems, whether we are of faith or not. However, if we look at our pain as an opportunity to learn as oppose to an opportunity to blame, we can accomplish many things from our pain. Blame provides no room for growth and no sense of responsibility. Maybe there was a reason why you are experiencing this pain. Maybe it was not meant to punish you from some higher being, but maybe it was a gift that was meant for you to grow.
The way I see it, its like going to school. We all go through the stress of finishing up group projects, toiling our way through our studies, trying to pass our courses and finally finishing up by graduating at the end. Sometimes, we failed in some of our assignments, exams and maybe even some classes. And when we failed, we could have taken two distinct roads that would have determined our future in school. We could have looked at that failure and instill within us hatred towards the professor by blaming how difficult he or she made the exam and even to the extent of insulting the professor's credibility. Or we could have learned from that failure and see what we could do differently next time so we could achieve better success in the next round of exams. The first example of looking at that failure you become a bitter person and you remain uneducated in your opportunity to learn from your life lesson. Whereas, the second example, you become a more peaceful person and at the same time you learn from life's lesson.
Pain is necessary in our lives. It all depends on how we perceive pain and how we choose to learn from it. We need to accept our pain and see it as a window of opportunity for everlasting growth. Hopefully, we all may learn to see our lives with a new light!
